What defines my Identity?
Part one: Comment on the two short stories we’ve read focusing on the idea of “identity”. How did the events in the narratives shape the identities of the two characters?
In The Boat, the death or process of loosing their fathers is the main event that shapes/shaped the two characters. Mainly, the loss made both the characters stronger, and in charge of their life. For example, in Shaving, Barry now had to take full responsibility of his life, his mother, and the house. The death makes them independent, they are no longer known as “Harry’s son.” (for example). But they are known as Barry, a man on his own, and has to keep up the family’s name. In The Boat, the narrator went back to getting his education, and taking responsibility of his life. Both of these characters had to make their own decisions and take a lead in their life.
Part two: Consider what has made you the person who you are today. What experiences have shaped your choices? What values have you inherited from your parents? What values have you acquired from your friends that may differ from your parents? Grandparents?
There are a lot of things that shape me as a person, and make me who I am. My life has been full of experiences, just like anyone else. For example, this summer, I spent two and a half weeks in Bangkok without my parents. I was with my sixteen year old cousin. I had the most wonderful, scary, enjoyable, and crazy experiences in Bangkok. I was influenced by a lot of my cousin’s there, for the better, and maybe a little for the worse. I learnt how to be more open as a person, more friendly. I learnt how to life without my parents for almost a month, basically being independent. I learnt how to manage my money and take responsibility of my belongings. I feel I have grown a lot as a person over the summer. My parents play the biggest role in my life. For me, they come first no matter what. They have taught me a countless number to values. Life lesson after life lesson. They have taught me about simply being a proper human being, no greed, no lying, no stealing. They have taught me to keep my integrity. My parents want my education to come first, but they aren’t the kind of parents who would keep my away from my friends, or keep me away from fun. Friends in high school usually like to do sort of wild things, such as drinking. That’s one thing that my parents would not like me experiencing at fourteen. Other than doing things that are illegal, my parents are pretty open-minded and accept all of my friends for who they are. I think my friends and parents have pretty much the same values so I don’t have to be confused about who to listen to at times. My grandfather often used to tell me to be respectful to my parents, keep my faith in God, and be a decent girl. These are all of values that make up myself.